6 Weeks After Baby? Go on the Damn Date!
I always say to my clients and my families that the one thing that I think is the most under utilized part of our services to do is to put that date on that calendar.
You know the one.
After you have that baby, six weeks out postpartum, circle a date. Call us and go on a date.
And don't take out your phone and don't look at a million pictures of your baby and talk about their schedule from the day.
Forget it all for five seconds and just remember what came first.
It's really important and integral to your mental health, to your wellbeing, to the stability of your home, to your own relationship, health and maintenance. After all, we have to take care of those things because no one else is gonna!!
Do it for you; if you wait too long to do it, It’s going to feel impossible to pull yourself out of the other roles that you have and get back into. And yes, just so you know, the effort goes both ways! I don't need to wait for my husband to do something; you need to find the moments yourself.
The first day of school, the night before my husband went back to teacher report days before the kids came in, I wrote him a note, telling him how I admire his work ethic and how much he adores and loves his job.
You know what? I can buy HIM flowers.
(He was complaining the other day to me that flowers shouldn’t just be for women.)
Find what your love language is for each other because that's how you were going to invest in your relationship. New postpartum is very stressful, but It's not selfish to take that time to foster your relationship and I think that's a really under spoken topic in this season of life. It’s something that you should really, really think about now before it feels impossible or too stressful to make that happen. It’s something that you will not regret.
I'm going to go find some ideas for an inside of our own house for a “when the kids are asleep” kind of date night for the two of us to reconnect a little bit. You don't have to leave the house to do something spectacular for each other; It doesn't have to cost a lot of money.
It doesn’t have to be ‘Grand’ in terms of gesture. It can be as simple as a note in a lunch box. It can be a phone call from work. It can be raunchy text.
Whatever is going to make you feel those excited butterflies and jitters that you used to feel about each other. Everyday once a week, right on your planner, schedule caring for your spouse or your loved one.
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