Doulas Are For Dads
It happens all the time. As I’m finishing up at a prenatal meeting, it’s Dad that has more questions than Mom. I always use the same line: Doulas are for dads, too!
It makes sense that you, as birth partner, may be worried about being replaced by a doula, but we aren’t here to step into your shoes. A doula isn’t hired to replace you, but instead is meant to be a complement to you. As long as you want to be a part of the action, you will be, and we’ll be there to encourage that.
As a birth partner, you are an essential part of the labor and delivery process - and not just to get the bags in the car and to the hospital. You are vital in the emotional, mental, and physical support of your partner. You are the one who knows them best. You know what they love, what they hate, and maybe even what they need to hear in that especially difficult moment.
You’re also human. Doulas are meant to provide you with support, too. Not sure if this is a normal symptom? We are well-versed in what’s normal or abnormal during pregnancy and labor, and can reassure you. Don’t remember those comfort measures? We can guide you through it and/or offer another set of hands to provide relief to your partner during labor. Feeling weak or tired? Making sure you’re fed, hydrated, and rested is one of our top priorities. Is the birth not going exactly as planned? We’ll be there to help you understand the situation, and validate any feelings that arise.
We are here to support your vision for your birth experience, and that includes the physical and emotional support of the birth partner.
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